Focus on the I cans, not the I can’t (s)…And focus on gratitude!

November 15, 2020

It’s been a tough year, 2020 has been a very weird year but we’ve learned a lot during this period.

Since you’re following us, I’m assuming you’re a travel lover as well, and as travelers, being told we can’t go somewhere, can’t explore the world anymore it must be hard. It is difficult to suppress this passion

This world is different now than it’s ever been, but it’s also much the same. We are in a season where everything that can be shaken will be shaken.

We learned that we don’t even know how strong we are until we are forced to face the harshness of life. We learned that things don’t always turn out the way we planned, or the way we think they should. While in isolation, we learned that life isn’t like writing a novel where you can plot out how things will end and ensure the characters behave as you want.

  • Contrary to popular belief…
  • We actually aren’t all experiencing the same thing right now.
  • Some of us are loving the slower pace of life, this is a much needed break in what had felt like a never ending sprint.
  • Some of us are busier now than we’ve ever been because of work full time while parenting, without any school or childcare.
  • Some of us have had our lives ripped apart by this virus, loved ones sick in the hospital with no one to love on them…  or worse, we have loved ones already taken by Covid or others diseases.
  • Some of us have lost our jobs, our livelihoods, our businesses, and our minds. Where others of us have maybe only just lost our (false) sense of control. We’ve all lost something. And, there may be more loss to come

Focus on the I cans, not the I can’ts

So, what can you do? We suggest thinking about all the many things you’re able to do right now! If you focus on what you can’t do and all of the plans that were cancelled, it’s way too much.

Explore the country you’re currently in. Get in the car and go on a road trip to a nearby city, state or province.

If you live in a warm area that allows you, spend a full day at the beach reading, swimming and relaxing.

For us where the cold season is here, enjoy a walk in nature,  a visit to the forest is pure therapy for the soul. And remember this: “There’s no Wi-Fi in the forest, but I promise you will find a better connection.” – Unknown

If you are a cyclist, what about a day of cycling? Maybe cook a meal at home, visit a vineyard if you have one close to you. If you live in a house and not in a block of flats and you have a garden, make some work and a little change of scenery can do wonders for the soul  

We took a deep breath this summer as our newborn Annia was just 2 month old and we went on a three days vacation to the seaside, Romanian seaside. We are Romanians by the way, most of you probably already know, but for anyone who stopped here for the first time on this blog.

Experiencing a good sunset & allowing ourself to soak in it can be rejuvenating.

Sometimes we need to slow down & enjoy the little things around us. Something I really love about the sea is that it reminds me how to stop and take in the majesty of what’s around me.

In what ways can you slow down today to remember how good life is?

We we have 42 days left from 2020.

What’s your dream for the coming new year? What do you want to accomplish? Ok, it looks like we’ll have to put aside any travel dreams…But life is more than travel. Maybe you’re wanting to get healthier? Maybe you want to do more with your life?

No matter what your plans are, try to get the most out of this 2021. You are worth it!

As we are told to prepare for the worst four months of this pandemic and the darkest days are still ahead of us, there is also hope that by the end of next year the life will slowly, slowly begin again

It is quite clear that life will never be the same as before, maybe we will recover a little from the life before the pandemic, but we have to prepare for big changes in the world. Massive upheaval and exposure of corrupt agendas, sin and control is taking place. Don’t fall into fear, worry or anxiety as that is not your portion.

New studies show that the main determinant of quality of life and its length is the way we think and not genes, as previously thought. A stressful life will only lead to serious medical problems, such as heart problems and even cancer. Stress is a trap!

The frailty of life has always been just as close – it’s just that before, there were a million distractions to keep you from thinking about it.

But hey, here is the thing, nothing lasts forever. No empire, no civilization, no power, no pandemic… But only God. Psalm 23 reminds us that

“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”

And guess what? God is still on the throne and He is in the middle of it all. Humans are good at mapping out how they hope their life will unfold.  Unsuitable for these times. We become dependent on the feeling of being in control. Forget about that for now. As they say, life is what happens when you are busy making plans.

Focus on gratitude!

It’s a simple, but powerful tool. To focus on what you have rather than what you don’t, what you can do rather than what you can’t, the little things that make you happy, rather than all the things you miss. Be thankful that God is with us and for us and will never leave us as orphans.

While putting this post together, we know that times like this still feel incredibly lonely, but we are not alone in our grief. Not now. Not ever. While humanity is in yearning for things to change from these present circumstances, if you’re lucky enough to live with some of the people you love, make sure you prioritize lots of extra cuddles. In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take

We send you all a big hug, remember to stay catchy and we’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic.

 #FocusOnYourCans #Gratitude #FocusOnCans

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